Today I sit at home on a personal day, feeling guilty that I am missing work. But, as a person in the helping profession, I have learned when I hit my own emotional threshold I need to take a moment to slow and and take care of myself. If I cannot have the time to take care of myself, I will not be able to take care of my clients.
So, what does the music therapist do when she is in need of music therapy herself?
Pay attention. I have unique insight into my own triggers, and I should pay attention to them. For me, that is increased sleeping and lack of energy. I typically do not smile or laugh as much as I typically do (which is alot!).
Be Proactive. Do things that I know will raise my endorphin levels and help my body cope with sadness or grief. I exercise, take my vitamins, and make sure I have a friend checking in on me.
Faith. Spend ample time praying and listening.
Therapy. Listen to my own music choices. Play and sing music that speaks to me in this moment. Write lyrics if it feels natural.
For me, I've been listening to "If I Die Young" by the Band Perry on repeat for weeks. I took the time to memorize the lyrics, learn it on guitar, and I play it every chance I get. It makes me feel better.
Caretakers need to take care of themselves, just as we take care with those we serve.
